You can tell me a lot of things but you can never tell me how to feel.
Too often people’s emotional responses are misinterpreted as “disrespect” or disregard, yet many fail to realize like lifestyle choices, everything is not for you nor about you or your personal choices and experiences. If my emotional expressions are a disrespect to you then do you really care about how I feel in that moment? Are you really thinking about me?
Hurt people hurt people….. It’s a very real and natural occurrence. The key to stopping the cycle is having someone who understands your feelings enough to let you express them without retaliation or restrictions. Let me be clear. There is a difference between what you think and what you feel. Expressing a thought generally has direction. It has purpose. Real emotions tend to have one main purpose. make someone else feel what you feel… when you attempt to combine the two, you get manipulation. Great orators have this ablity. The spectrum ranges from Hitler to MLK. Obama to Trump. Even comedians to a degree have this ability People who have a platform. People who know how to get people to feel something enough to do something with that emotion in mind.
Of courseI’m going to share with you the definition so we may have a clearer understanding
(Psychological) manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through abusive, deceptive, or underhanded tactics.
control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously; handle or control (a tool, mechanism, etc.), typically in a skillful manner.
I do not attempt nor have the intentions to tell people what to think, feel, say and/or do. I do want you to be aware that you do have control over all 4… Do not be fooled by people who prey on you during emotional states or attempt to get you there for ill intentions.
Feelins are good, they are human. Feelings are real and never wrong. Not having control over them is where problems arise. This is something that must be learned. If you always hold your emotions in eventually they will overwhelm your judgement. I think it’s sometimes called snapped…. Imagine how far you’re willing to go. Scary right? Do not allow your emotions make you do something you know you’ll regret but also understand someone who may be at their tipping point. Sometimes a concerned listener is all that is needed to save someone from themselves. Understanding can quails emotions.